This Misconception Costs Careers, Relationships and Satisfaction
This image illustrates the fallacy that hard work leads to recognition and advancement. That accessories will make you feel important. That salary equals fulfillment.
These are merely coverings we lay over our desire to be valued when we don’t believe in ourselves.
At a certain level everyone is working hard, earns a reasonable wage and has a nice pen or handbag.
Hard work can turn into the treadmill to nowhere if it is your only career strategy or your escape from things that are not working.
Negotiating for salary without a tool belt of signature strengths, how you’ve applied them, your measurable key accomplishments, your value proposition in a new role and a timeline for delivery is far less effective.
And the stuff you buy is a great way to treat yourself as long as it isn’t how you make yourself feel good when you doubt yourself.
Everything on the bottom of this image comes from an internal sense of self-worth.
I see this in my clients. Society tells you what you should want and you play to that - big job, high salary, marriage and kids, big house, dream vacation. And you’re tired because deep down what everyone truly wants is love and acceptance. That’s human nature. But we’re confused by cultural norms.
You deserve love and acceptance.
And you deserve to understand and project just how amazing you are. Doubt is a thought trap.
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When you feel whole, you want others to feel the same and project a comfort level with self.
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You draw people to you.
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They want what you have.
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You have a very clear boundary between who you are and who you are not.
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You are a “must have.”
Funny thing…the end product of all of this is a better job, salary and lifestyle WITH satisfaction.
Success is freedom. Not more hours.
If this resonates with you I’m doing a free live training on Monday - February 20th on How to Bulletproof Your Job Security and Advance Even If You’ve Tried Everything. I’ll be doing live coaching too if someone volunteers to be coached.
If you are finally ready to undo the thought trap and have the career and relationships you want I look forward to seeing you on the live training.
It’s time for you to show up for yourself first, feel closer to people you care about and position yourself for the greatness you are destined for in your career.
When you believe in you, others will too. You’ll be the “must have.”
Register at the link and I look forward to seeing you on the other side.
Success is freedom. Not more hours.
Your coach,
Mary Lee
P.S. Feel free to forward this email to someone who could benefit from it. We are all walking down the same road in life looking for a hand to hold. Sometimes we must be the hand that reaches out. www.MaryLeeGannon.com
Mary Lee Gannon, ACC, CAE is an executive coach and 19-year corporate CEO who helps leaders have more effective careers, happier lives and better relationships.
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