Gaslighting and Your Executive Presence
You know the feeling. Youâre in what you think is an honest discussion with someone and suddenly they blindside you with a comment that totally undermines your perspective. At first you are stunned like a deer in the headlights. You think, âHow could she say that? It isnât at all true.â Then you get angry at the betrayal and at this point you have lost your executive presence. You shut down or start defending yourself, never getting anywhere on the real issue.
You know you are being gaslighted when you hear comments such as:
- I didnât do that.
- Youâre overreacting.
- Youâre imagining that.
- Youâre too sensitive.
- I never said that.
- Why are you __________? (Something that isnât true.)
- Stop being a victim.
- Youâve got the problem not me.
- You need to let it go.
Gaslighting happens at work and in life. Itâs a Machiavellian tactic whereby someone minimizes you by denying that your perception of a situation is true. Itâs meant to undercut you - stifle you - wear you down - shut you u...
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