I Am Struggling
I am struggling with what weâve been seeing in the world - the blatant lack of respect for fellow human beings. Iâve read everything I can on it, talked with close friends, ordered books that I think will help make sense of it all. It wasnât until I stopped âseekingâ answers and turned inward that I found what I was looking for.Â
I got out my watercolors, sat down on my front porch and painted a favorite scene of Hilton Head Island from a photo I had taken  recently. In the solace of this mindful activity clarity began to emerge.
The world is full of scarred souls - souls who donât know how to love because theyâve never been loved or feel they donât deserve love. Love is the very basic of all emotions. Everything emanates from there. So if we canât love, we canât connect, be open, grow, be happy, feel liked, love others etc. When we are void of fulfilling emotions and don't turn inward to work on what needs to be resolved, we notice an outside nagging sense that we aren't worthy and...
When Drama Overwhelms You
Youâve seen it at work and at home. Someone is anxious about something and suddenly you are feeling anxious too. You know this isnât healthy and that you shouldnât feel this way which only makes it worse. Now youâre self-judging for not distancing yourself from the drama and begin to doubt your own effectiveness. You start losing sleep and wake up in the middle of the night, running the dayâs conversations over in your mind. Â
Lately, Iâve been feeling overwhelmed and sucked in by another personâs angst. Drama is created when a person canât accept the way they feel so they try to externalize it or put that feeling off on others, usually in a highly demonstrative or desperate way. This behavior provides them a temporary yet unsustainable relief from their discomfort. Thus, they continue the drama dance to try to unload their despair.Â
I notice I have been feeling anxious and assuming the anxiety of this person. Iâve begun thinking that I wonât be able to accomplish what I need to get ...
What are you going to remember about Christmas? â The Happy Holidayâs Plan
What do you actually want to happen this Christmas? Are expectations already making you tense? After all we have been fed for two months via television, radio and print what the âperfectâ Christmas should look like. You know you donât want to feel loneliness, fear and anxiety. Be the creator of what you want.
The Happy Holidayâs Plan
- Discard the goal of the magazine or TV perfect holiday. Perfection is not a strategy to happiness. Actually, it is the antithesis. Seeking it distances us from the intimacy of kinder and gentler moments.Â
- Discard expectations. They are an excuse for not welcoming and accepting the people we love just as they are â that includes ourselves.Â
- Create a vision of what you want from this holiday. Imagine it is January 2nd and you are reflecting back on Christmas. What will have happened for this to have been a great holiday? Were you present with people who are most important to you or did you commit to so much preparation busywork that you did not ...
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