This Matters for You Executive Presence
I really like the line, âAre you operating as an emotion scientist or a judge.â Emotion scientists observe their and other peopleâs emotions from a third party perspective and get curious about whatâs behind them. Judges judge to get away from the discomfort of feeling uncomfortable.Â
Scientists process and name the emotion to release it. Judges turn and run from it with it nipping at their heels forever. Scientists have executive presence. Judges get stereotyped as difficult, emotional and ineffective.Â
Thereâs always a choice. One is harder and requires looking inward with humility and curiosity. One is easier and demands externalization with blame that results in underlying shame.Â
Practice being the scientist. It makes life and leadership far easier in the long run.
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...Timely Example of The One Thing
Clients often ask me how they can become a better leader. I tell them this: Anticipate. Know your industry - what is coming 2 -5-10 years down the road. Know your products and services - their uniqueness and vulnerabilities. Know your end user - their needs and wants. Know your team - their strengths, opinions and what they need from you.
Healthcare is a reactive not proactive industry. Most say it is more profitable that way. That is shortsighted. People are living longer. Chronic disease has become more difficult and costly to manage. The emotional and financial suffering from COVID-19 could have been minimized if we'd been prepared.
This quote from a recent Harvard Business Review article by Pete Schultz speaks truth. "Imagine how many lives we could have saved, how much economic distress we could have mitigated, if, at the onset of Covid-19, we had one or more safe drugs that were highly potent against coronaviruses and could be immediately advanced into human trials. Investing proac...
When They Don't Talk About It
We personalize other peopleâs behavior in an effort to guard against their wrath. This isnât helpful. Your colleagueâs frustration, anger, condescension or dismissiveness might be vented at you but is not rooted in you. There is nothing wrong with you because someone treats you poorly. Good people know how to communicate without making you feel small.Â
Try asking them this: âIf we were to have a better working relationship what would that look like?â This forces them to articulate action not victimization.Â
Then donât speak or interrupt. Say only, âTell me more about that.âÂ
Let them feel heard. DONâT defend yourself - just repeat back what you heard. In there words will be things they are likely wrong about. But let them be validated.Â
Ask them if they want a better working relationship with you. This is important because if they say âyes,â which they likely will, now theyâve made a commitment. Then align on at least one thing.Â
Behind their bad behavior is an assumption theyâve ...
If I Were on This Poster
Short and sweet today because enough said in a few words.
I first saw this image twenty five years ago when my four children and I were homeless, on public assistance and without an automobile. I never forgot it. If I were on this poster today it would say, âMary Lee Gannon, corporate CEO of a $24 million organization and executive coach, was told by her ex-husband, âYouâll never make it on your own.â
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Your coach,
Mary LeeÂ
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The Seven Deadly Sins of Management
Years ago I read a book called the Seven Deadly Sins and agreed that the first among them was the most deadly - Pride. The greater our ego, the greater our pride, the lesser our humility and the greater propensity we have for failure. The people you have the most difficulty with have far greater difficulty with their own egos, need to be heard, desire to be recognized and rush for validation. Don't let that person be you.Â
The Seven Deadly Sins of ManagementÂ
- Pride that you are more capable than your employees. How gratifying is it to be dubbed âKing Know-It-Allâ when everybody hates your guts? When you make all the decisions and give continual directives it cuts off their ingenuity, independence and desire to take risk. Â
- Sloth in your dedication to develop your team. You develop projects but how often do you develop talent? When is the last time you asked an employee, âWhere do you see yourself a year from now? What project would you like to develop?âÂ
- Gluttony in your ...
Three Steps When You're Afraid
This week I had to give a presentation at work not unlike others Iâve given throughout my career, yet I was nervous. Every time I thought about it my heart started to race and I got tense in my neck and shoulders. Public speaking is one of the leading causes for workplace fear. But I speak often so my nervousness didnât make sense. As an executive coach I know not to turn away from fear but to bring it closer like you would a hurting child. That self-nurturing was hard in this instance. But I kept getting curious about what I was really afraid of.Â
When I could stand open and vulnerable without judging myself, I realized I had a lot of personal distractions this week that made me feel anxious and irritable. Just the day before I had argued with an online bank customer service representative who refused to cancel a credit card they had sent to my home for my deceased father. I kept trying to convince him that this was the bankâs problem and should not be my problem. Typically, I would ...
When You Personalize Your Employees' Behavior
When I was a new manager I used to personalize why members of my team werenât engaged. I made it about me. I was the reason they were under-performing. Â
I did everything in my power to re-engage them and when it didnât work I then started to resent them for being disengaged. What I didnât do was hold them firmly accountable to clear goals for fear of push-back and confrontation. I didnât do my job as a manager and they became entitled. Â
When I set clear goals and began meeting with them regularly on their performance on those goals we began a dialogue around the challenges they were having and could role play alternative scenarios. The feedback depersonalized for me when I made it about their performance on the goals and not their attitude versus my expectations. Very objective. Them against the goal, policy, company value - not me.Â
Wishing you the power of regular feedback on clearly defined goals today.
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Don't Waste Time on Resolutions - Do This Instead
My husband and I were sitting alone on the beach of our home on Hilton Head Island last week on Christmas eve. COVID had altered the travel plans of our six children and their families. We had decided if we were going to be alone for Christmas we'd be in a place we love. We sat there talking about how COVID has changed so much for everyone this year. I deliberately got up from my chair and snapped this photo as my commitment to moving forward with a fresh perspective. Hope is on the horizon. Though hope is not a strategy, it reminds me that it is time to plan.
Would you take a trip without a map? Of course not. So why do we think we can create a New Yearâs resolution and get there just because we want to? The reason most resolutions fail is because they are simply notions centered on âgettingâ something and not grounded in your values - the root of what drives you. They arenât authentic and aligned with your core.            Â
11 Reso-YOU-tions for Results in 2021Â
- Set...
What to do with Entitled Employees
Iâve never understood why overbearing people think they have power. Itâs obvious they donât. Nobody trusts them or authentically has their back. They are always exhausted trying to make themselves look good at otherâs expense. Their insecurities reek in their behavior. And their leadership has no sustainable affect because the people they play to are the first ones off the ship when it starts to go down. Â
If you canât achieve your goals without manipulating, controlling, condescending to, backstabbing, and intimidating other people along the way youâre weak and you will ultimately fail. Period. Iâve seen it in corporate America time and time again. It may not be right away. But it will happen. And your legacy will precede you everywhere you go after that.Â
The real problem with mean people is that they are intrinsically unhappy, insecure and have minimal self-awareness. The root feeling behind their behavior is anger coupled with an uncomfortable sadness they donât want to deal with...
Are You Doing This on Thanksgiving - From My Family to You
If you've talked with a family member this week you know there is disappointment in the air. Honor that feeling. It makes us sad not to come together to celebrate the very thing we value most in the world â our relationships. It hurts. We feel cheated, angry, afraid, as if we donât want to get our hopes up for anything right now.Â
You miss the traditions, the food, the table decorating, the hours in the kitchen fussing over the stuffing, the family laughter, watching parades and football together and the hugs.Â
Ok. There. Let all that out. We can release that which we own. Name and own the disappointment.Â
Now letâs have some fun. What wonât you miss this year? The money you saved not doing mini makeovers in the house. Buying food that will get wasted â that you really donât need or use. How your brother and sister-in-law don't help clean up. The uncomfortable moment when Grammie asks Matt when he is finally going to get married, or Stewart and Alicia when theyâll finally have a chi...